MT
Registered: 03/18/08
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Hi All,
This is a wonderful, supportive sight for those trying to get pregnant or those pregnant, how about for those suffering from infertility issues: miscarriage, loss of a baby in late pregnancy or just those ladies who can't get pregnant and have sought medical treatment month after month?!!
I had two miscarriages over the past 1 1/2 years and many failed treatments with RE. The positive side of it is that they have not found anything wrong and feel in time I will get pregnant and have a health baby it may just take time, as I am 38.
This is an issue that many woman don't talk about and feel ashamed, fearful, hopeless, isolated, sad and angry. But, it does not have to be that way. Is there anyone who wants to share their experiences and get support and give support??
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MommyMusings
Registered: 06/28/08
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Thank you for starting this thread. I too am dealing with infertility. We've only been officially ttc for about 1 year now, but I have very recently been diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve, one of the worst diagnoses in terms of infertility. I am only 29 years old. I do have hope that someday I'll get to be a mom, but I'm also devastated by the thought that I may never have a baby. We plan on doing everything in our power to make this happen, but I'm so terrified that it won't work.
I'm so sorry that you are going all of this. I feel your pain. I sincerely hope that you get your miracle someday! |
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MT
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Hi Mommymusings,
I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. It is just terrible. The feelings associated can just cripple someone. The saddness, anger, questions and uncertainty. The past 1 1/2 years has been a roller coaster ride for us. I was lucky to get pregnant after tying for one month, great but, then m/c at 5 weeks. Then I got pregnant again after only six months of tying, m/c blighted ovum is what they called it at 4 weeks or so...another devastating blow. Then I went to an RE b/c of my age and did IUI's and one IVF that did not work. Went for a second opinion last week and he actually feels that b/c I got pregnant on my own twice it can happen and to give it time. He feels I overloaded my body with m/c and medication too fast too soon. I am trying to be hopeful that it will happen. I was happy that he said go home and try on your own again for awhile, that gave me some hope.
Luckily I have a strong faith in God and its his strength that gets me by each day.
Have you seen a Reproductive Endocrinologist? Don't give up hope with all the treatment they have out there it can and will happen.
If you want to talk you can get me at jdsw02@yahoo.com also.
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MommyMusings
Registered: 06/28/08
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Hi MT,
I cannot even begin to imagine the pain of miscarriage - I am sorry that you have had to go through all that you have in your journey to motherhood. I am a firm believer that these experiences and all the suffering present us with opportunities to grow and learn about ourselves. In the end, I think we'll be better parents and more compassionate human beings than we may have been otherwise ... Before we officially started ttc, I used to worry that I wasn't 100% ready or that I wouldn't be good at the mommy thing. All those fears have virtually gone out the window now and I have connected to a place inside of myself that I never even knew existed. When we first started trying, I used to get so frustrated each month that it didn't happen. My timeline is much different now as I anticipate a long and arduous road ahead of us. But, oddly enough, I'm ok with it now. I too have faith that I'll get to be a mommy someday to the child that I'm meant to have. My path to parenthood may prove to be different than I expected, but my heart is open and I'm going to push through all of the sadness and heartache until I get to the other side.
I am seeing an RE. Fortunately, he seems optimistic about our odds. I feel very blessed, as many RE's would not even work with me given my FSH. He seems to think that I may not have very many eggs left, but given my age, the quality should be ok. He also suspects endometriosis may be at play, as I've got an endometrioma on my right ovary ... so I'm going in for a laparascopy on tuesday to remove the cyst and treat any other signs of endo. We'll figure out what course of action to take from there. As if that weren't enough, my RE also discovered that I'm hypothyroid, so I'm now taking medication for that. It has been a rough couple of months with all of the new diagnoses (especially since I have never suffered from any sort of health problem and have always viewed myself as very healthy), but I'm glad to have discovered them now and am hopeful that we're putting together all of the pieces that are impacting my fertility. I'm also doing acupuncture and chinese herbs, which have really helped me deal with some of my anxiety. So, in a sense, I'm already grateful to my future baby for putting me on the path to better health 
Have you tried acupuncture? It really does help for infertility. Also, I highly recommend the following books, if you haven't read them already. Julia Indiachova's 'Inconceiveable' and 'The Fertile Female'; and Randine Lewis' 'The Infertility Cure.'
I am going to email you a poem that really helps me ... |
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MT
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Regardless of age the journey to having a baby is not often a smooth one for so many. I think the percentage is actually higher for those having problems then those not. It seems to be a taboo subject especially for those not going through it, to fully understand the feelings associated.
Mommymusing, thank you for suggesting the books and Acupunture. My RE recommended I try it and have been speaking with a few and may start for my April cycle.
Good luck with your procedure on Tuesday. It is not a consulation but, at least they are indentifying some problems that once they fix may help you get pg. For me I live with a great frustration b/c they can not find any problems and I have gotten pg. twice in a short time. I guess its just age and egg quality as they say.
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MommyMusings
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Hi MT,
I'm sorry I've taken so long to respond ...
I am doing alright. I had surgery in April and they found and removed lots of endometriosis. Since then, we've been trying naturally but are anxiously waiting to start more aggressive treatment. I was traveling in May and June, and my RE was out of town this month, so I'm hoping to start my first injectable IUI cycle in August. IUIs don't necessarily increase pregnancy odds by much, especially in cases of diminished ovarian reserve, but my RE seems to think it's at least worth trying one or two before moving on to IVF. In any case, we'll be able to see how I respond to the fertility drugs, so that will provide us with important information for future IVF cycles. I'm fortunate to have an RE that is willing to work with me.
It scares me to think that all of this may not work, but I can't not give it everything I've got. We're self-pay which adds a whole other dimension to our infertility issues ... I worry that we'll be so drained financially that we won't be able to afford alternatives like adoption. But I try to find that place inside of me that knows I will not be childless.
How are you doing? I hope that you have good news to report ... |
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MT
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I have not been on this board for awhile now. I am so happy to report that I am 19 weeks pregnant, due March 2nd. We could not be happier and more excited after all we have been through. After all the fertility treatments turns out I needed non of them and conceived naturally in June. I did Acupuncture and believe that helped me to relax and fine tune my body. I highly recommend it for anyone. |
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